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Mar 29, 2023
Brenda Smyth
Think about the last time you didn’t agree with something at work—a new procedure, the handling of a client, changes to a product or service. Great minds … don’t always think alike. And there’s nothing wrong with disagreeing.
The trouble with disagreement comes when we choose to: 1. Not voice our concerns, 2. Voice our concerns in ways that damage our work relationships, or 3. Not be receptive to disagreement from others.
Several years in the publishing industry taught me a lot about disagreement, compromise and relationships. Magazine page counts, color signatures, ad placement and many other variables go into getting a publication to press. Salespeople push for prime spots for advertisers, bonus distribution, anything to keep their treasured advertisers happy. Journalists push to keep their articles objective—happy to write on controversial topics that keep readers intrigued, not so happy to include advertiser’s “puff” information. And designers want “pretty” and readable—lots of white space and wide margins (often things that use up precious space). Depending on his or her job, each person on the team had a different vision of what the ideal issue looked like. Disagreement was an ingredient in each issue.
Margaret Heffernan, a former CEO and speaker, suggests that we “dare to disagree … that we care enough to create conflict” … that we encourage people to challenge our own ideas and that through this process we come up with better results.
But, disagreeing shouldn’t include angry outbursts, demands and put-downs. There is a right way to raise your concerns at work without damaging relationships. And there is a right way to encourage and appreciate this openness in others.
Here’s advice for both disagreeing and allowing for disagreement. (Some of these tips work in either situation.)
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When people of varying backgrounds and experiences come together in the workplace, there’s bound to be disagreement. Organizations benefit from these unique perspectives when we talk and listen well to those around us, even when we disagree.
Brenda Smyth
Brenda Smyth is supervisor of content creation at SkillPath. Drawing from 20-plus years of business and management experience, her writings have appeared on Forbes.com, Entrepreneur.com and Training Industry Magazine.
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